When you live in a land where it is likely – nay, expected – that you will marry in your early to mid-twenties, by the time you reach your thirties, attending a wedding that has yet to be your own is a daunting proposition. Trust me. I know.
Take this last wedding for instance. Normally I draw the line at the bouquet toss – not that towering over a swarm of eager 12-year-olds vying to be the next bride isn’t a lot of fun. But this wedding was different. This wedding boasted several single women in their twenties and thirties in attendance. Apparently, the comradery of it all made me giddy and against my better judgement, I agreed to partake in the flower throwing festivities.
And that’s when it all went downhill …
For starters, we were paraded out in front of everyone much too soon. While the bride and groom posed for their photo-op, us single girls stood there melting in the sun. If that weren’t bad enough, my feet were beginning to whine. I actually heard them sob at one point. You must understand – I live in Idaho. In a state known for potatoes and Napolean Dynamite, comfort cometh before fashion more often than not. It’s the only thing that keeps us from killing the person telling yet another stupid potato joke! So, needless to say, after an entire summer in flip-flops my feet felt terribly abused being stuffed into stilettos – lovely though they may have been.
All the same, for the sake of everyone around me, I tried to be brave. I smiled sweetly as I watched the photos being snapped. I struck up idle-chit-chat with the girls around me. Finally, I resorted to fidgeting. It was then I noticed a rather large grouping of people to my left. All staring at me. Nonsense, I said to myself. Don’t be silly. Why-ever would they be staring at you? Yeah, I couldn’t imagine either.
Not that I had a lot of time to contemplate, however, as the bouquet-tradition was finally on its way. Like lambs being led to slaughter, we began our pilgrimage to the bottom of the church steps …
Go, Amy! Go Amy! Catch that bouquet!
The girl next to me looked as mortified as I felt. “Is that woman cheering for you to catch the bouquet?” She asked.
So it would appear. And most frightening of all, I had never seen the woman before in my life.
My mom, bless her soul, managed to sidle up next to me and whisper, You may want to consider leaving immediately after the toss.
She didn’t have to tell me twice. Long story short – or at least shorter – the woman was desperately seeking her son’s “next girlfriend” when she spotted me. Oh cruel fate! At one point she even tapped my mom on the shoulder, instructed her to turn around, and then yelled back to her son, “this is what she’ll look like when she’s older.” Seems she was in it for the long-haul.
I have one word: yikes!